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The MetaBrain Chatbot helps users to Self-design their mindsets by applying cognitive restructuring. Cognitive restructuring is a process found within Cognitive-behavioral therapy. It is the goal of CBT to change maladaptive mindsets. So, while we are not offering therapy, we can still use this process to quickly make mindset changes, affordably.
Many are involved in cohorts that map the journey toward a self-directed, self-designed life, modifying mindsets into alignment with chosen goals. The App is used to validate and personalize the experience.
The most important part of the chatbot experience is to relax and enjoy the journey of discovery. It’s best to:
1. Avoid judgment as much as possible, of yourself or others, because no one asked for the mindsets they hold
2. Take your time, and pace yourself for the journey
3. Sit with the question for a moment as you dig into your psyche
4. When you guess, and you get pushback from the chatbot such as, a “not quite right,” or an invalid response, sit back, take a deep breath and answer the question again, with a fresh mind, in search of “your own truth”
5. Finally, think in simple terms when you guess; the mindsets you hold are simple, containing just a few words to direct quick action on “what to do,” in the moment, without thinking. That is why these mindsets must be simple when we unlearn them and replace them with what you want to believe instead.
Examples:
I am too slow vs. I am a slow processor of information and it takes me time.
I talk too much vs. I talk and talk and don’t know when to stop.
I worry about everything vs. I am a worrier at heart and I can’t relax about anything.
Why Questions:
You will notice that the Chatbot asks leading questions to help you think deeply about why you do what you do. Already in these lessons you know it’s the mindsets that direct your behavior, driven by an emotion. It happens when triggered by a sensed event in your environment that is similar to past experience where you “learned” your mindset. So, if you want to unravel the why, it’s best to think about your past and how you grew up. These are the events you experienced that formed your mindsets.
Example – Why do you think you struggle standing up and giving a speech, all eyes on you?
Did you grow up in a family that encouraged speaking up?
Did your mother or father shush you?
Did a caregiver instill a belief about how you verbally asserted yourself?
Were you told to “be quiet,” or “you are too noisy?”
Then consider the question again and you’ll discover that you were “programmed” to act in the way you do when being asked to give that speech. You’ll present that answer to the Chatbot in response while we measure your brain waves to determine if you are spot on, close or not correct at all. The mind is calm when you make statements that are in alignment with your conscious and unconscious mind, which then measures as valid. Continue to answer until valid and you may also notice an “ah-ha” moment.
Once you experience a few programs the process will become second nature and even when you are not using the product you will get insights into your mindsets. Jot them down! Then return to the chatbot experience and validate and reverse those you no longer want!
Tips:
| The use of “even if” | Sometimes creating a fixed mindset seems too restrictive. This is when using an “even if” works well. Example: “I feel loveable even if I fall short,” vs. “I feel loveable when I fall short.” Using “even if” does not fix that something will happen but if it does, you are emotionally and mentally prepared. And in this instance, we all fall short and it’s okay. |
| When the word “should” comes up in your chatbot conversation |
Typically the behavior is just fine, but “should” suggests that one is required to perform it without choice so restructuring the mindset is purely to take out the requirement. Example: “I no longer feel I should be kind to people,” to “I feel I am kind to people.” Also, we often put “should,” onto others. These are best replaced. Example: “I no longer feel people should hear me,” vs. “I feel people hear me.” |
| Mindset restructuring is best performed with statements in the present |
Words like “I will,” or “I want,” are not in the present so it is best to avoid them. Example: “I want to be smart,” to “I am smart.” |
| It’s best not use double negatives (this is a double negative) | It is best to avoid double negatives when identifying what you believe or want to believe. Example: “I no longer feel I don’t follow-through,” vs. “I no longer feel I don’t follow through.” |
| Mindsets are associated with topics that seem to have nothing to do with each other but if you let go and let the discovery process happen (free association) you will be amazed where it takes you and what you can heal from just one program | You may be working on achieving higher focus, for example, but the reason why you may lack focus is probably unrelated to this topic but instead situated in a past experience of family chaos or an event that interrupted your life, like moving, changing schools, or parents making shifts that impacted you, i.e. divorce, incarceration, or illness. Search for mindsets with this in mind. Your journey may start with, “I no longer feel I lack focus,” may lead to, “I no longer feel my childhood is ruined,” or “I no longer feel I always lose.” |
| Why is the word that drives the Chatbot | The Adaptive Therapy process is engineered into the chatbot to guide self-discovery of limiting mindsets. The process is rooted in asking WHY over and over again. While it might feel a bit annoying sometimes when you don’t easily get a valid response, it’s poking and prodding is exactly what’s required to get your unconscious mind to give it up and push it to your consciousness. This experience is often described as an “Ah-ha” moment. Let it happen, keep digging and it will come. |
| Claiming, “I don’t know…” often pops the answer to consciousness | If you are not getting a valid answer, then sit back, take a deep breath, and say to yourself or out loud, “I don’t know,” or “I have no idea what it is…” Often the thought will pop to consciousness. You are searching your unconscious mind for the why and it knows the answer and claiming you don’t know consciously often breaks down the barrier and you will know. Grab the fleeting thought and answer with it, to the chatbot. Often you will have found it. |